Don't be too proud--accept everything the law offers

Even if you are sure that you can take care of yourself and want to prove to your ex that you don't need him anymore don't take the risk.  One thing I have learned is you never know what the future will bring and if your state offers you full alimony for life take it.  Don't let them convince you to take less than you deserve.  If you were married over 10 years you supported your spouse.  It doesn't matter if it was emotionally or financially.   You were there and you deserve to be able to continue the life you were accustomed to.  No one has the right to make you feel you deserve nothing or less.  It is important in this economy with people being laid off left and right without notice to protect yourself.